I became more confident in my 30s, I got into therapy and dealt with years of childhood trauma, I learned to communicate my needs and be more mindful of the needs of others. My 20s were miles better than my teens - more expansive, less cloistered - and my 30s better than my 20s. We were so young, I felt, and why should we waste that youth focused on what was already behind us? After all, right at that moment we were the youngest we would ever be. In my 20s and 30s, friends would casually toss around the phrase “We’re so old!” I rolled my eyes. The geezer jokes and “lying about your age” punchlines that adorned the mugs and t-shirts there seemed to come from another world, one that didn’t make sense to me. I mean, my grandparents didn’t listen to my music or play Nintendo with me, but they were cool in their own way - not crusty and out of touch like the caricatures suggested. At Spencer’s, a novelty store at the Galleria Mall in White Plains where my friends and I would find gag gifts, I was always perplexed by the section of “Over the Hill” merchandise. Likewise, I never quite understood the popular antipathy toward old age. It seemed glamorous and exciting to be an adult. I remember going to the city with my dad to see plays or go to the Met and seeing a group of women having lunch in a café. Each year that passed marked one step closer to adulthood, which for me meant independence and freedom. When I was a kid, growing older felt like an achievement. It wasn’t a “big” birthday - one of those round-numbered ones that feels like a milestone - but nevertheless it got me thinking about aging. government, among others.įind show notes for this episode and more at /podcast.This post is part of TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series, each of which contains a piece of helpful advice from people in the TED community browse through all the posts here. Ingrid is a former design director at IDEO and has led design programs for Target, American Express and the U.S. She is the author of “Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness” and her TED talk, “Where Joy Hides and How to Find It” has been viewed more than 17 million times. Ingrid is the founder of The Aesthetics of Joy and empowers people to find more joy with design. In this episode, Ingrid Fetell Lee talks about joy-how to recognize it, where to find it and ways to create it.
While some may conflate joy with childishness and think we’re supposed to get more serious as we get older, research actually shows a clear link between our surroundings and our mental health.Įxperts urge us to find calm by looking inward and muting the outside world, but what if we can access joy in the world around us? Did you know: Joy is one of our six primary emotions, which are universally expressed around the world? And it’s only positive one?
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